Being a naïve young man in my sophomore year of high school, I had a relationship with the most beautiful girl named Savannah. The first couple weeks consisted of dates, getting to know who she was and basically building up a foundation. Of course, in the beginning of a relationship there are no arguments, just simply building up your relationship with that guy or girl. However though there are no problems, communication is shown from in the beginning. That is because at this moment in my relationship I used communication to understand who she is. After a few months of talking I asked Savannah to be my girlfriend and of course she had said yes. Both of us thought that it was finally time to make it official because we felt that our hearts were in sync. A couple weeks into our relationship, small arguments had broken out every now and then, but it never was anything big. However, there was one big argument which I wish had never gone wrong. Savannah had said “Babe, you haven’t been spending time with me lately, you’re always out with your friends.” Basically she began to accuse me of not spending enough time with her when we were with our friends or even just between us two. I was offended because I felt like I gave her my whole life, and she meant everything to me. Right from the start this is where Susan Page asserts “These are “you” statements. They blame, accuse, and criticize the person you are angry with His natural reaction will be to defend himself.” (pg. 27) This is where the problem started, Savannah used a “you” statement which had offended me. It was my instinct to defend myself to her accusing me of not spending time with her. We continuously yelled, blaming each other for random things that were not even a part of the conflict. They were just brought into the argument out of anger. I got tired of back and forth yelling and decided to just stop and walk away from the issue. John Gottman stated that “