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Introversion and Extroversion

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"You don't even like talking to people," Reyna said to Cathy on the discussion of going out. There was a long pause as Cathy turned to me with the look of being offended and attacked. I tried to save face and tell her, "I think Reyna meant you're more reserved when meeting new people." But it was already too late, Reyna struck a nerve with her comments which Cathy was extremely sensitive about. The difference between these two friends are their personality traits; Reyna is an extrovert and Cathy is an introvert. Extroverted individuals tend to be more outgoing and assertive, while introverts think before they speak and often keep their opinions to themselves. Today, introversion and extroversion are two of the most researched subjects in personality psychology. Where we fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum determines how we socialize, resolve problems, and express love towards others. I consider myself an introvert and am very observant of my introverted friends, and would like to gain a better understanding of the difficulties connected with human interactions. The primary purpose of this paper is to enhance my communication knowledge and explore the interactions among introverts living in an extroverted world. Psychologists have classified individuals into the so-called Big Five personality groups, one of which is extroversion. Why didn't introversion make it on this list, you ask? Today, being extroverted is what our culture views as socially acceptable. The society we live in today is filled with individuals screaming for attention, with "selfies" trending all over social media. According to Susan Cain (2013), extroversion became the cultural ideal over a century ago, when Dale Carnegie states, "[speaking] is the indispensable weapon of those who would forge ahead in the keen competition of business (p. 60). It is believed that in order to be successful, a person must be able to speak confidently with others. Cain also states in the New York Times, "Culturally, we tend to associate leadership with extroversion and attach less importance to judgment, vision and mettle. We prize leaders who are eager talkers over those who have something to say  and that "we criticize President Obama because he won't drink [a beer] with us" (2012). American culture commends leaders as people-persons who are more social and assertive. Extroverts are able to express thoughts at public demonstrations and make quick decisions in front of an audience. They are the "social butterflies" who are encouraged to be positive role models for others in our society. Extroverts are reinforced, while introverts are demeaned in our society. Some individuals work better alone and need their own space to think before contributing to a larger team. Psychologist Sophia Dembling, in her article "The Solo Team Player," explains how introversion can interfere with some workplace regu

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