Tara beings with a reading from the Buddhist scriptures that was read to her on a retreat that she loved. It ended with the sure hearts release. She asked herself how does the heart become released? She talks about how we all want to feel the freedom to love without holding back, live from a sense of generosity in spirit and be fully alive. She discusses how we have strategies to hide, seduce, and stray away from who we are. She says the primal move of the separate self is fear. If you move through the day in a membrane closed way there will be some mood of fear or uneasiness. But if you stop and check what is happening and feel your heart restless, uneasy or incomplete that is the primal mood. In Buddhism its called duca. We as humans have it as a survival technique. We have to be vigilant and ready to react. We are designed to forget and be self conscious. We have a pattern that feels familiar- we forget a larger sense of being and have a limited identity. So how do we defend this heart? The more unmet needs we have for feeling safe, loved, and dignified the tighter our clinging appears. The biggest wound is to be unloved. If one is unloved they feel they are not good enough. We have standards such as to be successful, skinny, look good, etc. This sense is like an invisible gas that never lets us be at ease. If we are constantly consumed in how we should be we can not fully be free and have an open heart. This fundamental insecurity forces us to defend our heart from being free. One of the reasons we can not free the heart is due to aggression- the insecure heart pushing away. When we are insecure we judge others to bring ourselves up. She asks us to reflect on what goes on in our hearts when we pass judgements and to think of an example. I personally judge myself everyday. I always want to be different. I love myself yet I want to be different in certain ways such as- skinnier, a faster swimmer, and smarter. I describe it as a li