In sociology, gender refers to the social aspects of differences and hierarchies between male and female (Macionis & Plummer, 2012). Similarly, the gender order refers to the ways in which societies shape notions of masculinity and femininity into power relationships (Macionis & Plummer, 2012). Throughout the social world, gender and more broadly the gender order are social concepts that help shape how we think about ourselves. They also influence our family and work as well as our interactions with others. In this regard therefore, gender is evidentially crucial to understanding not only who we are but what our place is in the world. This is no truer than in the case of relationships. This is because relationships, much like everything else in the world, is subject to the concepts of gender and gender order and is clearly defined into very specific gendered roles. By understanding and exploring the importance of gender and the role it plays in relationships, it will become evident that gender is crucial to understanding who we are and more broadly our place in the world. Building on the definition of gender established above, sociologists have also noted that gender is the product of a number of different components including social, cultural and psychological ones that exists on a continuum of masculinity and femininity (Richmond-Abott, 1992; Unger, 1979). Within this spectrum, Bem (1993), notes that society has adopted a "lenses of gender  that assumes there is a psychological difference between men and women. It stands to reason therefore that there is an inherent difference between men and women apart from the physical difference in the genetic and biological makeup. This difference is also notable in relationships. Sociologist John Gray, explores the idea that men and women enjoy or place importance on two very different aspects of sex. Gray believed that men's primary concern was physical compared to women's concern of foreplay and interpersonal closeness (Gray 1993, 1996). This was further supported by Canary et al. (1997) who noted that men and women had an inverse relationship in their preference for sexual intimacy over emotional intimacy. There are multiple explanations for why this is the case; and there is no clear consensus about which one answer is correct. However, one point of agreement is that this gender difference is "significantly although not completely, mediated by traditional gender-role identity.  (Perrin et al 2010, 625). Therefore, being male or female affects how we interact in relationships, it affects the roles we adopt or men and women feel we need to adopt. It also affects the desires men and women have from a relationship and the differing ways men and women interact with each other. This clearly highlights the importance of gender in defining not only who we are and what we want, but also how it impacts and a