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Jealousy - The Green-Eyed Monster

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Jealously is a common emotion as happiness, sadness and envy. It is said that some amount of jealousy within the couple is normal, but when it is taken to extremes problems begin to arise, having detrimental effects that can produce a negative impact in a relationship. Even though a bit of jealousy can contribute to maintain the spark in a relationship actually, jealously can evolve into a constant obsession which causes pain, humiliation and struggles to both parties. Once the green-eyed monster emerges and starts taking possession of our tormented minds, few attitudes of our partners remain “unsuspicious”. Some of us begin facing internal and painful battles between becoming obsessed about what our couple is doing and trying not to overreact about it. A typical example of this is that if our girlfriend does not answer her cellphone, as a first and quick thought, we think that she is cheating us. Then, we believe that maybe she is busy at her work, taking it as a second and more possible thought, though the disturbing and negative one remains in our consciousness. Moreover, the tiny line between our overactive imagination and the reality or concrete facts starts to blur. We do not perceive events as they truly are, because we let our imagination flow. As a result, we end up feeling less confident about ourselves and start to distrust whatever our partner says or does. Jealousy also has a direct impact on our partners’ personalities. Their behaviors are modified because of our attitudes towards them. They begin feeling tired of being continuously judged or asked about their actions outside home. What is more, when we accuse our couple of lying or cheating for something that they did not do they feel completely humiliated. They feel ashamed because of our unfounded accusations about their “suspicious” actions. Furthermore, when we read our partners’ messages, listen to their conversations or hack their social networks’ ac

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