In a time when everyone is searching for instant gratification, and people are willing to throw anything and everything away, relationships, like an old smartphone, are being tossed in the trash the very first time something isn’t working properly. There used to be a time when marriages were something that you worked on, that you fought to keep; now if it breaks, you can simply sign some divorce papers and move on to something new. Reading the book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Dr. Gary D. Chapman, professes just the opposite. Gary D. Chapman begins his book by discussing what happens after marriage and why things suddenly change. What is so different after the honeymoon? Why does marriage force a modification in our relationship? Chapman opens the text with these questions in order to help the readers understand the true goal of his book; solving their relationship quandaries. Chapman explains that we are, in fact, living in a state of euphoria at the start of our relationships, and that this state gives us the illusion that we are having an intimate relationship (Chapman, LOC 391). Using this theory, once we get married we return to reality and begin to become more of who we really are. Our textbook describes this period as the coming down stage (Lamanna, 283). Chapman explains that it is our most basic emotional need to be truly loved by someone else. This genuine love, however, is not easy. Chapman states that this “kind of love requires effort and discipline” (Chapman, LOC 402). He believes that by using the five love languages, we will be better able to understand not only our partners, but also ourselves. By realizing how we interpret love, we are better able to give and receive true love. The first love language that is presented describes the use of words of affirmation. Within the chapter we meet a woman who can’t seem to get her husband, Dan, to do what she asks him to do. After a discussion with Chapman, they realize that this is due, in part, to her husband feeling nagged. Chapman determined that the problem was as simple as giving compliments to her husband. Chapman stated that “when we receive affirming words we are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate and do something our spouse desires” (Chapman, LOC 506). Eventually, the kind words turned into actions by Dan. This chapter continues by discussing that we should make requests of our significant others, not demands, and give guidance to our s